Everyone wants to know how to be happy, and in the process of trying to find out, the solution often becomes blurred or covered over. The truth is often simpler than we want to think it is, and this is certainly the case with happiness. As it happens, achieving happiness is usually much less about making plans, fulfilling goals and so on, and much more about something more basic, simpler, and genuinely easier to manage and make come true. In this post, we will look in some detail at some of the clues as to where real happiness might come from, so that we can expect to enjoy life that much more, and get so much more out of it.
If you can’t find a sense of purpose to life, it is unlikely that you will be able to enjoy it that much, no matter what you do or what you happen to achieve or experience. Without a general background sense of purpose, there is much less chance of real happiness. But finding a true purpose can be very difficult for most people, and if nothing else is bound to take a long time, so it is something that you might want to think about as soon as possible. There are many things you might want or need to do to make sure that you are finding your purpose, and primary amongst them will be thinking deeply about who you are and what you have to offer the world. If you have that down, you will find purpose easier to come across, and happiness not far behind.
Sometimes, the cliche is a cliche because it is actually completely true, and a perfect example of this is that kindness is a quicker and more expedient way to be happy than receiving kindness. That is not to say that receiving kindness is not good - of course it is - but what truly makes us happy in the deepest sense is when we do things for each other, and not when we have things done for us. If you want to be happy in life, spend your time being as kind as you possibly can be towards other people - those close to you, and other strangers alike - and do it frequently and fully.
Much of life causes anxiety if you are not careful, but there is a way to ensure that you retain a basic distance from such concerns and therefore remain in a more tranquil state. Such tranquility is very often the goal or at least one of the major hallmarks of spiritual or religious traditions, but you don’t need to be spiritual or religious to make it a part of your life. All you really need is a genuine desire to rise above those things which cause you pain and live in such a way that you can be more at peace with everything in life, the good and bad together. Do this, and happiness will be your friend and ally for good.