I have been reading the book of Exodus, in the bible, and stumbled upon this interesting thing called "The Ten Commandments." You may have heard of it.
Exodus 20: 5 - You must not bow down to them or worship them, for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God who will not tolerate your affection for any other gods...(and it goes on)
I want to stick to the idea of God expressing to His people that He is a jealous God. Isn't it fascinating how we as individuals have a tendency to steer away from expressing our jealousy? Yet God, in all His glory and power, simply says that I am jealous and I will not tolerate you giving your love and affection to any other Gods.
The idea that God is out to protect the integrity of His relationship with His people is so powerful to me. During this time, that commandment countered every instinct of the people's cultures. Well, how does it really differ for us now? And more importantly, how can we relate this to a specific partof our lives?
Let's talk about relationships and the concept of jealousy. Instead of jealousy between one another, we can focus on how God's jealousy can connect with how we idolize or bow down and worship our relationship as opposed to God.
Disclaimer: I am not about to tell you that you should not overly and be madly in love with the person in your life.
So, the question of the day. Is God Jealous of Your Romantic Relationship?
When you think of the word 'jealous,' it has such a bad vibe that follows. But God? He is perfect in character. He is loving, merciful, protective and caring. Yet, He is still jealous.
When it comes to love, if you're anything like me, you get lost in it. In a good way--well, maybe. Love can influence you to give your all and to almost forget about anything around you. At least, in the moment or the act of love.
Though the scripture says that God will not tolerate your affection for any other gods, there's more to it. We may instantly push out the thought because considering your boyfriend or girlfriend as "god" was not at the top of your list when reading this verse, right?
Wrong, in a way. I personally have been guilty of intentionally making God jealous by putting my relationship and my partner on a pedestal and putting God on a back burner.
God expects our exclusive devotion to Him. If we're putting our "all" into a relationship and giving every ounce of our energy to the man or woman of our dreams, what does God get? The leftovers?
God is not a leftover God.
I understand it though. It happens. I want to share 3 ways that can help you to keep God first, at the center of your relationship and to continue to give him the exclusivity that He desires and deserves.
1. Make Sure You Have Double the Amount of Alone Time with God That You Have With Your Partner
Date nights are cool, but how often are you having a "God & Me" night? (That's a thing!) I tend to ask myself, do you know as much about God as you do about your boyfriend? Am I spending enough time in His word? Which brings me to the next point.
2. Read His Word Together As A Couple
Having a relationship with God is a beautiful thing. However, when you're in a relationship and only one of you are devoted to that faith, it becomes difficult. Make sure that you are both giving God that exclusive time. Spend 1 day a week for an hour or so to start and then build up as you bring yourselves closer to God as a couple
3. Set Boundaries
I think I can only speak on behalf of dating. So if you're married, please feel free to chime in. In the dating scene, or with courting, it's important to make sure to set boundaries. Or, standards. What are you willing to put aside for this person? Are you sticking to your beliefs? Do you tend to choose this person and time with them over God? Find that line of balance.