DO ALL THINGS WITH LOVE.
Sometimes we decide to get into a relationship out of loneliness and in the midst of that relationship, we forget how to love.
In reality, at times it's not that we forget, but rather we never really knew how to love from the beginning, so it only becomes more difficult.
Only 27 years old and I've already witnessed a lot of changes. From technology to social media, to relationship statuses. Partnerships started from telling a person that you were interested in them, courting them to "it's complicated" or providing someone with the benefits that are of a relationship, but not actually being in one.
What we experience from some of this is the lack of communication and the inability to love harder, stronger and better.
It must sound like a brain puzzle.
How do I love better? I don't think I've ever really loved at all. I didn't have the proper upbringing to teach me how to love.
It's not as hard as we make it seem.
Love is what you feel when something or someone ignites a desire, a feeling, a passion, a sensation within you that is not often felt. It's rare. As much as we express love to each other and a love for a thing, it's not always loving that we feel. In that case, it's familiarity.
So! The main point--How to love better?
1. Learn About Yourself
Yes, it may sound cliche. You've heard it time and time again. So, how come you haven't absorbed it and taken action? Loving ourselves is absolutely important. It's the numero uno way to be comfortable in life, to love life and to love others. Explore who you are. Find out what you like and don't like. If you wake up some days and dislike something about yourself, change it and then learn to love it, especially if it's inevitable.
2. Be Sensitive to Others
When we experience problems, it's common to withdraw and to behave in either a negative or reserved way towards others. Most of us actually yearn for someone to be there even if it's just for a shoulder to lean on. In the reverse role, we too have to allow others to feel cherished and to let them know that they matter.
Communication is SO VERY important. It's important to understand the mind of your partner. Who knows how to read minds? Not I! This helps your relationships (platonic and romantic) tremendously.
If you find yourself in and out of relationships, If you find that you go in and out of depression, If you find that your family is not as close as it should be, If you find that you aren't treating yourself how you deserve: REFLECT. I've learned that we carry a lot of our emotions with us from childhood through adulthood. If you've ever known anyone who experiences dementia, you'll notice that their long-term memory outlasts short-term almost always. Take time out to reflect. Find where you went wrong. Find out what anchors are in your life. Sometimes we hold onto pain and we don't even recognize it. Being aware of these things will bring positive changes in your life.
BIBLE VERSES TO INSPIRE
1 Corinthians 13:7
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance
Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.
Do everything without complaining and arguing.
Love must be sincere; Hate what is evil, cling to what is good.
My command is this: love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that he lay don his life for his friends.
To a new day, a new year of better love!